Questions about human connection.Experiments to make things better.

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Many promising connections never become meaningful relationships. What causes some to develop while others plateau? An exploration of reciprocity, initiative, vulnerability, compatibility, circumstance and the other forces that move relationships forward—or keep them where they are.

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We often consider whether someone fits a role, but less often whether a particular combination of people fits together. Which forms of compatibility—and difference—help people communicate, collaborate and perform well as a team?

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Joining once is relatively easy; coming back is a different decision. What happens during and after a first encounter that makes someone want to return—and eventually become a participant rather than simply a visitor?

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If some people naturally connect more easily than others, should communities use that knowledge by design? An exploration of whether designing for resonance strengthens connection—or risks reducing difference, openness and the unexpected encounters communities also need.

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LAMP — Life Actions Mathematical Planner

Our time is finite, but the people, places, possibilities and problems competing for it are not. How do we decide what deserves more of our time—and when to persist, redirect our attention, or let something go? For this experiment, I apply a LAMP, a repeatable decision-support process to compare possible actions against priorities, values, constraints, energy, future direction and the forms of connection that matter in a particular season of life.

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Why do we immediately click with some people and not others? An exploration of the characteristics, contexts and interactions that predict interpersonal resonance—and whether we can know in advance who we're likely to connect with.

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A collection of people isn't necessarily a community. What transforms a group into something its members experience as an “us”? An exploration of connection, identity, participation, reciprocity, shared experience and the conditions under which community emerges.

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An invitation gets someone through the door, but it doesn't guarantee they'll feel they belong there. What turns access into genuine inclusion—and what makes people feel recognized, valued and able to participate once they've arrived?

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We meet plenty of people, but call relatively few of them friends. What distinguishes a friend from an acquaintance—and when, exactly, does that relationship change? An exploration of how we recognize, define and experience friendship.

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Much of adult life is organized around couples and families. What might it take for friends, chosen family or other non-romantic relationships to build a meaningful home together—and what social and practical structures would make that easier?

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Seeing someone regularly creates familiarity, but not necessarily friendship. What needs to happen between repeated encounters for a relationship to actually develop—and which conditions help people move from simply knowing one another to becoming friends?

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What transforms somewhere we live into somewhere we feel at home? An exploration of the people, conditions, experiences and attachments that create a sense of home—and what might be missing when a place never quite becomes one.

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The Friendship Experiment

I publicly recruited new friends — a real application process, written assignment and group interviews — to test whether adult friendship could be approached more explicitly and intentionally, while also enabling connection among the other participants.

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The Belonging Experiment

A June 2026 first-person public experiment asking whether I actually belonged where I lived, what belonging consisted of, and whether it could be strengthened.